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So I guess my overall question to your overall answer is which is it? Are you conscious and trying but just having trouble, as is expected of everyone at some point? Or are you just too “lazy,” in which case what on earth makes you feel like you deserve a break? Cause like, sure, everyone has trouble, which is why it’s helpful for people who see problems to point them out to us. I wasn’t harsh, I didn’t tag this as any of the -ism categories it falls under, I just reblogged, asked my questions, and went about my day. I was direct, yes, because I don’t believe in sugar-coating things that need to be said. But it’s not as if I attacked you, which I’m assuming you also feel because you’ve stated specifically that you won’t post things that aren’t contributing to positivity. However, if you’re just lazy or uninterested in being accountable then that’s not only sucky but also something that I as a follower am interested in knowing since you’re running a space that you have specified as safe and positive.
I mean, I’d like to think that it’s a case of conscious and trying but just having trouble, but I’m biased because I’m talking about myself. I get what you’re saying, and I will try to stop using the concepts of “physically female/male” regarding anatomy into my descriptions now.
I think I was getting defensive because what you’re arguing hits at the very purpose of this blog. I mean, the point of the blog is that it’s for people who are male-identifying, -presenting, and/or -bodied. You argue that anyone who IDs as male does have a male body, in which case the distinction “male-bodied” is meaningless and can be merged with “male-identifying”. It’s not a far step from that to say that anyone who IDs as male does have male presentation, regardless of other standards of masculinity/femininity of their clothes, so then the distinction of “male” all comes down to gender identity.
Which I guess on some level I’m okay with (in my own personal life, I definitely do subscribe to the “identity trumps all” philosophy when it comes to addressing my friends). But if we’re going to accept gender identity, a mental thing, as the trump card of gender, then what’s the point of having a body positivity blog specifically for guys? If being a guy only comes from the inside, then there goes 98% of my content, which was reblogged specifically because the people portrayed are (by the standard conventions) male-presenting or male-bodied. And that’s where it becomes a hard pill for me to swallow. Because this blog is important to me, and to many other people, judging by the messages I’ve gotten. (I know I don’t respond to all of them, but I read them all, and they are all appreciated!) So anything that suggests that I should stop is icky to me.
There’s probably a way to reconcile those two ideas that I’m just not seeing, so I’ll open it up to your suggestions, lovely followers.
I mean, by saying it’s a space for anyone who is male-identifying, then you’re already saying that it doesn’t matter what your body is? Unless you mean that people have to be both male-identifying and also been assigned male at birth. And yes, I’m saying the distinction of “male-bodied” is meaningless the way you’re using it — what you mean by “male-bodied” is “has a penis” which means you’re not only talking about men — you’re talking about many people of many genders.
“If being a guy only comes from the inside, then there goes 98% of my content, which was reblogged specifically because the people portrayed are (by the standard conventions) male-presenting or male-bodied. “
What you’re saying is that you only want a space that represents people who “look like men” — according to what YOU think men look like, which is based off of societal norms, which is what you’re trying to fight against by running a body positivity blog— so you’re right, I don’t think there IS a point to your blog.
Why is it okay to use one form of marginalization and oppression to fight against another? You’re running a blog whose intention is to uplift and inspire people whose bodies and lives are ignored and destroyed by the general public, and you’re perpetuating the same behavior. Just because the idea that you’re being EXTREMELY problematic and should definitely stop is “icky” to you doesn’t mean that you should not address it.
At any rate, it’s clear that this blog is still not a safe space for those of us whose bodies haven’t been approved by the majority.
Anonymous asked: How much does top surgery *usually* cost?
that honestly depends on factors like the shape and size of your chest, the type of procedure you’re having (double incision, keyhole, even just a reduction in some cases) and where your doctor is in relation to you — e.g. are you going to have to travel or stay in a hotel, rent a car, etc. how reputable your dr is can also affect their costs — more well-known often means more money.
if you have a mid-size chest i would plan to spend no less than 8-10k on any combination of those things, give or take. also consider whether or not you have to pay for the consult and if you’ll be needing to pay for care and recovery afterward.
again, this is no concrete answer because there are a lot of variables, but i hope that helps you get an idea.
Anxiety as you get to the last of your T vial?
Does anyone else have this? Like, I am supposed to get four more .5cc shots out of this vial, and just from eyeballing it I’m pretty sure there’s plenty for that. I have been very diligent about making sure I’m taking a precise and accurate amount of T for every injection. But still, as I look at it getting to the last of my vial I have this serious sense of dread. Like, what if there is no more testosterone left anywhere in the world and this is the last of it? That’s completely unreasonable but like. Really. That’s what I feel like.
Anyone experiencing this?