I laughed out loud. A good play on words always gets me.
(Source: racistgrandma)
As a man, I have no problem with women generalizing men as rapists, misogynists, yada yada. Because I’ve seen men do some vile shit and had to stop even viler shit from happening. This is from the 3rd grade to now. Waayyy out of line touching, sick name-calling, physical abuse, all dat shit. I see looks in men’s eyes that make me uncomfortable, so imagine how a woman who couldn’t properly defend herself from a man is feeling. Again, this is shit I’ve seen at the age of nine and I still see it. Very disturbing. And I’m not talking about strangers. I know niggas in my family, young and old, that exhibit some scary behavior towards females. I do not fuck with it.
I got three little sisters and hella younger female cousins. Anything like that happening to them takes my mind to very dark places. So I have no problem with a woman generalizing all men as rapists. You know what I call that? Self-preservation. If that is what you gotta do to ensure your safety, then do that shit to the fullest. Sadly in the wrong place and at the wrong time, that won’t be enough to protect you.
I’ll never say “But I’m not like that” or “All men ain’t like that” to a woman who is talking about her actual life experiences. What type of shit is that? I don’t have to make myself feel better about what type of man I am, because I already know. I also have seen the worst in men. I don’t like it.
Generalize the fuck outta me. Protect yourself. Because Ima tell my sisters the same thing.
this is such a good post
How to respond when someone says you need to use trigger warnings
Blogger: You really need to use trigger warnings on these posts.
DON’T: Oh, my gosh, this person is anonymous? Ignoring.
DON’T: What the fuck how dare you telling me to use trigger warnings triggered me jesus christ you’re a terrible fucking person.
DON’T: I really don’t like that person. I’ll just keep not using TWs.
DO: Oh, shit, I’m sorry, thank you for pointing it out, I hope you’re okay.
Nope, triggers are for legit PTSD. Violence and sexual assault, that’s p much it. That’s right, I’m questioning the legitimacy of triggers.Hey, as someone with what you consider “legit” triggers, I think you’re being ableist and absurd. Do you have anything to defend this position with at all?
Yep. Triggers are things that legitimately trigger PTSD or similar disorders. I have phobias, and I like tags so that I can Savior things that set off my phobias, but a phobia is an *irrational* fear, i.e. you should be working towards fixing them, not coddling them. I’ve seen people request trigger warnings for “couch cushions.” Once everything is a potential SJW trigger warning, then the neurotypical public has no reason to take trigger warnings seriously, and people who have legitimate violence-based triggers will be further ignored by the general media.
I don’t understand why it is ok for you to have tags so that you can avoid your phobic triggers, but not ok for others to have TWs at the tops of posts so that they can avoid theirs. How is that significantly different?
Sure, it’d be good if people worked towards getting over their phobias. But why do you get to decide that they have to do that private emotional work while they’re browsing the internet? From experience, I know that getting over phobias is complicated and personal and that encountering the phobia randomly during your web browsing does not help. In fact, it hinders recovery. Trigger warnings for phobias do not represent coddling, they represent accessibility.
It can be difficult to deal with triggers like couch cushions or—an example of one I know a friend has—balloons. For those, I think it’s best that people develop self-care mechanisms. Although, as I mention in my trigger policy, which seems to have worked well for me and my readers on both my blogs, if people read my blogs and have specific triggers like those, I’m willing to warn for them. Because why on earth not.
I don’t buy your “legitimate” and “illegitimate” categories. It’s an example of disability hierarchy. And I don’t buy your “if we give attention to people in need then the dominant paradigm won’t take us seriously” rhetoric. Why are you more concerned with what the world at large thinks of people with triggers than you are with taking care of people in your community?
Reblogging for Stephen’s commentary. I am the friend with the balloon phobia, and of course that’s something that no one ever warns about because who the fuck is afraid of balloons? So I have developed ways to deal with that personally, which are none of your business and I’m not going to list them. What I will tell you, though, is that one of those ways has included telling people I am close to and who are close to me that I have a distinct problem with balloons and developing a system wherein if they come across balloons somewhere that I could potentially also run into them or if there will be balloons involved in something they are doing they let me know/trigger warn them, because even though it’s a really strange fear to have and even though I am trying to deal with it it’s still a phobia and it still causes me problems and I am still a person and they want to treat me like one.
Also, gay-me, as a person with what you seem to think are legitimate triggers, and whose experiences leading to those triggers happened to also involve balloons at one point, I think it’s completely disgusting for you to try to decide what counts as being connected to sexual assault and violence. And before you start on that — there are a lot of reasons I am afraid of balloons, not just the fact that there are some connections between them and my experiences of sexual violence. So, while you would undoubtedly think asking someone to trigger for something like balloons doesn’t count as a “legitimate” trigger, you need to check yourself and remember that you have no idea why people may need triggers for things and it’s not your business to know why nor is it their business to share. The only thing you need to know is that they asked for a trigger warning and you need to respect that.
(Source: duskypants)
TW: Depictions of lynching and whipping
This is a photograph from a book called ‘Without Sanctuary: Lynching Photography ins America” (pub. 2004). The photo is called ‘The lynching of Frank Embree, July 22, 1899, Fayette, MO”
By all reckoning, that makes this barely 113 years old.
There are two other matching photos to the set. The one below, and the one of him hanging, which is too upsetting to post. You can see it (along with others from much later time periods here: http://chnm.gmu.edu/courses/omalley/race/four.html)
lest we forget.
